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Advisory should be a time when students and teachers have the opportunity to connect. How do we make this time meaningful so it really does contribute to schools being more positive and supportive? Whether you are fortunate to have an entire class period for advisory or feel you’re scrambling to set aside a decent amount of time to connect with students, we’ve gathered 3 topics that have been especially well-received in the field.

We hope these spark some interest and inspire you to try something new:

Lesson 1:What are concrete ways to show and receive respect?

Special Materials Needed: None


●     Discuss the definition of Respect, ask students what their definition of respect is

●     Respect- having high regard for my own well-being as well as that of others

●     Guiding questions:

What does it feel like to be disrespected?

What does it feel like to be respected?

●     Break students into groups of three and ask students to share a time when they felt disrespected. What was the situation and how did it make them feel? What emotions did they experience?

●     Ask students to report back to the larger group

●     Ask students to reflect on their experience of being disrespected - What could you say or do to help that person?


Lesson 2: What is it like to “walk in the shoes” of another person?

Objectives: Students will describe the concept of empathy

Special Materials Needed: YouTube video

Show YouTube video “Red”by clicking on link clicking the link again if re-directed

Discuss video

How do you think the victim felt in the first half? The basketball player?

How do you think the victim felt in the second half? The basketball player?

What can you conclude?

Define empathy and compassion

empathy - when you can relate to another’s problems by being able to put yourself in his/her shoes

compassion - feeling sympathy for another & having a desire to lessen the suffering

Read & discuss scenario

On the first day of school, Maggie, a new student, walks into the cafeteria and looks for a seat. Hardly anyone notices her and if they do, they put their hand on an empty seat so she won’t sit there.

Maggie feels:

If you were Maggie, you would like if:

If you noticed Maggie, what would you do?


Lesson 3: Steps of Conflict Resolution

Teacher Talk

Conflicts are an inevitable part of even healthy relationships. Disagreements happen, frustrations, hurt feelings occur in all relationships…So how do we resolve conflicts? How do we work through them?

Review 6 steps of conflict resolution

·         Take time to cool off

·         Use “I Messages” to state feelings. (No blaming, no name calling, no interrupting)

·         Each person states the problem as the other person sees it.

·         Each person says how they are responsible for the problem.

·         Brainstorm solutions together - choose a solution that satisfies both.

·         Affirm, forgive, or thank each other.


Introduce the Abbreviated Win/Win

·         Cool off

·         “I” message

·         Say back

·         Take responsibility

·         Brainstorm solutions

·         Acknowledge


Using the following scenario, model and work with students on practicing the steps of the process:

Two students disagree about a call during a basketball game. One student insists the ball was out of bounds, while the other says it was a fair ball. The students begin arguing and calling each other names.


Elicit examples of conflictsthat could be solved using the Win/Win Guidelines. (Make sure to reinforce these steps are only used for normal conflict… never for bullying situations)

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